Interventions may seem difficult at first glance, but they are really the first step in the healing journey towards recovery. The challenge of addiction is one of the many reasons why a simple, poignant, and deftly written intervention letter is key to a successful intervention. Crafting an intervention letter can be tricky. However, if done correctly, an intervention letter should be able to touch the heartstrings of the intended loved one and convince them to accept the gift of treatment.
The Three Building Blocks Of An Intervention Letter
An intervention letter, also known as an emotional appeal letter, is not meant to point fingers, justify, blame, or shame. That is why it is suggested to use “I statements” rather than “you” statements (unless it is used to uplift or used as an example rather than punch down). The format exists as a guideline because it is emotional and can stir up suppressed feelings and resentments. The tone should create connectivity, love, compassion, and honesty. Below are the three building blocks in order.
The “Connection”
The connection is instilled in love. Compassionate words are recommended. Why are they participating in the journey? Stir up fond recollections and antidotes – funny memories, or milestones such as a home run or a graduation, a learning experience, or a heartfelt discussion. The good stuff.
The “Concern”
The concern is much more factual and should cite incidents and experiences that have created concern, and the results from those concerns: “I can’t sleep, eat, think,” or “I am sad and scared for you.” A fact about the loved one’s inebriated behavior such as a difficult visit to see them in jail or money lent for court is also something you could include. Even catching the loved one pulling money out of a purse or wallet that did not belong to them can be included in the concern portion. It’s a good idea to provide more than one specific example. This may be a good place to also remind your loved one that addiction is a medical condition that has affected those around them.
The “Hope”
The hope is also known as the gift. Offering the loved one the gift of treatment as a solution to stop the cycle of madness. The understanding is that this is a “we” disease and not a “me” disease and the family is in this together. This may be a good place to admit your part in the unhealthy family dynamic and share how you will be working on your part to get better so your loved one does not return to the same family system. This conclusion should make the decision easy for them.
A Sample Intervention Letter
Here is an intervention letter example to a loved one. This intervention letter to a sister offers you a baseline and roadmap on how an invention letter should be constructed.
Dear (Your Loved One)
You have been the best sibling anyone could hope for. We grew up as best friends and learned to share, talk things out and support each other during difficult times. Our sibling rivalry was almost non-existent and we were the admiration among our friends. Remember that one time when we got caught in that riptide at the beach and those hot lifeguards saved us and we wanted to get stuck in the riptide again!! Good times!
But something happened in the past few years. I have noticed that we have grown distant and that isolation and avoidance were easier than getting together. I have witnessed you drinking more than one bottle of wine a night. The angry language you use when speaking to our family really hurts me. Watching you cuss at my niece, something your sober self would never do, left me feeling powerless. When we did talk, I seemed to constantly smell liquor. When I came to see if you were OK a few weeks ago, I found you passed out in the garage. There were vodka bottles around your apartment and it smelled horrible. The disease of alcoholism is killing you and our family and me. All of this has me very concerned and heartsick.
I look forward to reconnecting with you. I want to re-establish our fun, playful daily phone calls. My children, Billy and Stephanie are excited to have you in their lives as their present, loving aunt. I know my part in this as I have turned my back in denial. I’m going to work on that so I can support you 100% in your recovery. I don’t want to cry anymore. I’d rather laugh, the way we used to. Please accept this gift of treatment today dear sister.
Love Always – (Your Name Here)
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